When we begin to enter into the domain of Self mastery and true sovereignty, and we Real-Eyes that our personal reality is informed ONLY by our perceptions
There has be in a long standing heritage in our feminine DNA that has had countless women sell out, diminish their own power and acquiesce to assuming roles that are inauthentic.
You are either living in a state of "Efforting" or a state of "Allowing". When you are "efforting" you are using your finite energy and your mind to MAKE things happen.