Are You In Relationship With Potential? Feeling Unfulfilled in Your Relationship?
Hey beloveds, it’s Laura Fredrickson with the Institute of True Wealth here in Tulum, Mexico, and I wanted to talk about an epidemic that is really running rampant right now, and it's emotional epidemic. It's based within relationships and what I referred to as being in relationship with potential.
I'm working with a lot of couples, a lot of people right now that are actually leaving their relationships; whether that be in a divorce, any type of a separation because that person that they've been with is not been fulfilling them, and the primary aspect of their focus has been on what they can change about that person, and what they can fix.
So I just want to remind everybody that our happiness and our fulfillment is a choice. It’s something that we experience from the inside out, not the outside in. Our partners cannot make us happy; we are responsible for that choice.
I also want to remind everyone that our relationships are merely reflections of the relationship we have with ourselves. So I just invite you if you are in a relationship to create a list of the things that irritate you about your partner. Focus for just a moment, it’s a powerful exercise if done so with deliberate intention; focus on what is lacking in the relationship and create a list of that; create a “no column” of that. And then I invite you to shift your attention to what it is you prefer in that relationship. So you're going to focus on what it is you prefer to experience. That's step one.
Step two is you're going to actually notice whatever those qualities are you going to reflect back to yourself, and you want to make sure that you're actually embodying those qualities the majority of the time. This isn’t about being perfect, but once again, you need to be embodying those in your own life for the most part. Something miraculous will happen when you do that.
Now remember, it takes about 30 days for outward manifestation and new evidence to appear. But once you actually start noticing the things that you’re wanting to experience in your relationship and you bring that back to yourself, I invite you to start giving yourself the very thing that you're wanting your partner to give you. Something magical as I mentioned before will happen, and you'll start to notice that they're actually starting to embody those characteristics as well.
As the late Wayne Dyer said “when you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change”. So I want to welcome everybody to do that. The number one reason you would do that is it’s just going to feel better, and there's nothing more valuable to us than how we feel.
Sending love from sunny, beautiful Mexico, and I hope you have an amazing day. Until next time.