Addicted to Processing?
Hi, I’m Laura Fredrickson with the Institute of True Wealth, and I want to talk today about addiction to processing.
There are so many people that are in the state of “I have to honor how I feel, I have to really process what just happened to me”, and what they don't understand, what they forget is that what we focus on expands, and you are attracting based on how you feel.
So this is not to dissall therapists or traditional therapy in general; there is a time and a place for that, so powerful, when I lost both of my parents I saw a therapist for 3 months. I did very deliberate work around the emotional trauma, and the emotional pain. But I often work with people who have been in therapy for anywhere between 10 and 20 years; nothing ever changes!
The reason for that is because what you focus on expands regardless of whether or not you're getting clever and you think “no, I just need to process and honor this”, you have to know that your attention is your greatest commodity. And when you continue to regurgitate those stories over and over and over, it's inviting the same energy in different packages into your life.
So awareness is key; awareness is the greatest facilitator for change, and without it you really have no choice and so I really invite you: look at your results, results don't lie. If you find that you're having the same type of experiences over and over in your life, maybe that's the same type of relationship dynamic that you repeat over and over and over. It's an opportunity to really harness your past and your experiences and use it in a way that gets you clear about what you prefer.
There's a very simple practice you can do, I call it “The contrasts exercise” you can create two columns: a “no column” and a “yes column”. And review your past in a very deliberate way, and write down the things that have not worked for you in your relationship, or in your job or perhaps with your health. And take your attention from that no column and shift it to what it is you prefer.
In order to create something new you have to focus on what it is you are wanting. It has to be thought of and spoken of in a life affirming way. The universe does not speak English French and Japanese, it speaks in the language of energy. So use your pass very deliberately and direct your attention from what you experience to what you prefer, place your attention on that at least four days a week; all that's required is the majority because momentum will handle the rest, and what you'll start to notice is new evidence in your life of those new energetic frequencies and experiences coming in as a result of you placing your attention on your yes, and what you prefer.
So remember processing does not fundamentally work, okay? It takes 17 seconds activate a vibration. So the universe is responding to where you place your attention now, now, and now. It doesn’t know the difference between your past, present and future.
So tell stories that feel good to you; everything in life’s a story. The most important one is the one you’re telling yourself.
Much love, until next time.