Hey beloveds, it’s Laura Fredrickson with the Institute of True Wealth here in Tulum, Mexico, and I wanted to talk about an epidemic that is really running rampant right now, and it's emotional epidemic. It's based within relationships and what I referred to as being in relationship with potential.
I'm working with a lot of couples, a lot of people right now that are actually leaving their relationships; whether that be in a divorce, any type of a separation because that person that they've been with is not been fulfilling them, and the primary aspect of their focus has been on what they can change about that person, and what they can fix.
So I just want to remind everybody that our happiness and our fulfillment is a choice. It’s something that we experience from the inside out, not the outside in. Our partners cannot make us happy; we are responsible for that choice.
I also want to remind everyone that our relationships are merely reflections of the relationship we have with ourselves. So I just invite you if you are in a relationship to create a list of the things that irritate you about your partner. Focus for just a moment, it’s a powerful exercise if done so with deliberate intention; focus on what is lacking in the relationship and create a list of that; create a “no column” of that. And then I invite you to shift your attention to what it is you prefer in that relationship. So you're going to focus on what it is you prefer to experience. That's step one.
Step two is you're going to actually notice whatever those qualities are you going to reflect back to yourself, and you want to make sure that you're actually embodying those qualities the majority of the time. This isn’t about being perfect, but once again, you need to be embodying those in your own life for the most part. Something miraculous will happen when you do that.
Now remember, it takes about 30 days for outward manifestation and new evidence to appear. But once you actually start noticing the things that you’re wanting to experience in your relationship and you bring that back to yourself, I invite you to start giving yourself the very thing that you're wanting your partner to give you. Something magical as I mentioned before will happen, and you'll start to notice that they're actually starting to embody those characteristics as well.
As the late Wayne Dyer said “when you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change”. So I want to welcome everybody to do that. The number one reason you would do that is it’s just going to feel better, and there's nothing more valuable to us than how we feel.
Sending love from sunny, beautiful Mexico, and I hope you have an amazing day. Until next time.
I was bulimic and anorexic for eight years of my life, and most of my thoughts were based on depression. I mean, I just focused on the negative; I hated my life, I hated my relationship with my parents, I hated my relationship with my dad, I used to fight with my mother all the time, literally fight with my mother all the time, and every single day I would just wake up hating my life.
And what ended up happening is obviously that revealed itself to me in my body and I didn’t want to eat, and I of course was throwing up my food and lost dramatic amounts of weight and it was just a really horrible, horrible experience as you can imagine, and my relationship to my body was, I don’t want to say it forever changed, but for a large period of my life was very, very delicate relationship that I had.
So for me it’s really important to share that these practices of where we place our attention is actually to prevent us for going down the path of disease, and a diseased body which can manifest in many different forms to literal depression, to of course the sickness and the illnesses that our body represent in the form of cancer and all of these other diseases.
For me it’s incredibly important to, while we are well, to continue to do the daily practices of placing our attention on the aspects of our life that are life affirming to us and that feel good to notice.
Love for self, love for myself. It’s an interesting subject, because when I speak about it like that, a lot of people go “God, that’s so selfish,” that is higher selfish because everything in my life is an extension of the relationship I have with myself.
So the greatest journey I’ve embarked on, and continue to embark on, is absolutely loving myself completely. And that’s an ongoing journey that continues every day.
I have an amazing collection of incredible people that I call my family, that are mirrors for me, incredible realizations about the areas that I’m not fully loving myself when I go into judgment of others, because I realize there’s no such thing as an other; it’s all an extension of me and the relationship that I have with myself and just coming to set your profound realization that it’s all me!
So love me, and I’ve really moved into, I would say, one of the most profound loves and courtships I’ve ever had with myself and with the divine. And I’m so incredibly blessed and the appreciation practices helped to cultivate that romance for me in a very powerful way.
it’s Laura Fredrickson of the Institute of True Wealth and I’m here in**** on another beautiful amazing day.
And I just had an incredible experience of irritation because I’m so absolutely committed to sharing my gifts and sharing my heart, and sometimes I get really caught up in this supreme state of perfection and it ends up just absolutely chocking and asphyxiating me in my own creativity, and talents, and willingness and desire to share my heart.
So if you can relate to this in any way, I just want to invite you to consider where in your life are you holding yourself to such supreme standards that you’re actually not showing up for your gifts, and sharing them.
And I’m telling you we’re in an era of authentic abundance; it is so vital that every single one of us just takes one step forward whatever that is to share your gifts, to share your wisdom, to share your teachings, to share your love, and when you do that it opens up a channel, like right now I feel so much better than I did ten minutes ago micromanaging how I was going to shoot this video, and what was going to be right, and my dear friend and videographer Hunter and I are just like “arggg”, it’s like “you know what? Just let it all go!” Just show up and be authentic and allow yourself to express and things flow from that place.
So let go of perfection, honor your progress, realize that life is a process, it’s a practice, be patient to yourself, with yourself, and operate from a higher perspective. And when you can come from that place you interact with life in such a better space, you end up being kind to yourself, it feels better, there’s nothing more valuable to you than how you feel, and you’ll be amazed at about how much productivity you actually can offer from that place of pure authenticity.
Have an amazing day.
Optimism to me is, once again, that deliberate choice to utilize my greatest commodity, my attention, and my mind, and my perception to choose to notice what is good.
To choose to be angel’s advocate for my life, to choose to envision best case scenario instead of worst case scenario, and to just really focus my attention knowing that what I attend to is going to expand in my experience.
To know that thru free will I have the opportunity to decide, to notice what’s working and to notice what feels good.
And that power of optimism has an incredible aura ****for me; incredible. It’s been amazing, it’s the key to why my dreams are my reality right now; absolutely.
Laura shares a few tips on how to manage stress and being triggered when things don’t go as planned.
Hey everyone, it’s Laura Fredrickson, I am here in Copenhagen little town called *****and I’m on my trust tour, not to be confused with trust fund tour, and beware of what you wish for.
This last month has been incredibly intense and basically every trigger you could imagine that would reveal to me the aspects of myself that are not fully trusting, where triggered.
So it's been quite intense, I know a lot of you have been going through intense times as well. So just wanted to offer some living reminders what has supported me through those intense times and hopefully will support you as well.
So the first thing that I always do when I'm going to challenge is I ask the question “how is the serving me?” How is this actually an ambassador for greater well being and to assist me in to full realization of becoming the best version of myself? So that's question number one and I always try to remember I'm a work in progress, but I always try to remember that everything is actually happening for me, and that things are not falling apart; they're falling together. Now of course, I play a pivotal role in that scenario through the placement of my attention because were each gifted free will. Which means we're having to collaborate and partner with these laws, with the universe to activate and to realize our best life. So the first question, “how is this serving me?”
The second thing which is so vital is to get out in nature. I know sometimes I get really caught up in my tack and I forget the essential foundation that I'm supported, always supported by this thing called earth. And sometimes when I just get out and lay my belly on the earth, I go out for a walk, I can be reminded of this creative force that is truly benevolent. That is intending for me to thrive and just the simple affirmation that all is well, this too shall pass, and those things start to set a new of vibrational set point for me. Which is essential for things to shift and for things to dissipate.
So remember you're always on vibrationalmatch.com and also keep in mind from a higher perspective we are in a mercury retrograde right now, and each mercury retrograde carries a particular theme. The theme we’re in right now is carrying the energy of a nine, and nine is all about letting go, surrendering, releasing that which doesn't serve. So oftentimes that has to do with the belief, a way of thinking, and so when we can step into awareness of what that is, ask the deeper question “how is this serving us?”
Get out on the earth; things can shift so…
Sending you so much love from Copenhagen. I'm off to Barcelona tomorrow and intending flow and ease, and grace to all of you fellow travelers, so…
Until next time.
How you will come into alignment…
It’s Laura Fredrickson in the Institute of True Wealth.
I just wanted to send you each some love and warm Caribbean vibes from Tulum, Mexico, and I'm guessing most of you have set your intentions for the New Year so kudos to you for that, but I wanted to remind everybody that there's something that’s even more powerful than intention and that is: attention.
In addition to getting clear about what's most meaningful to you this next year, be sure to place your attention more often than not on what is working in your life and what you are grateful for, so that you can come into alignment with your deepest desires.
So remember we’re always on vibrationalmatch.comand you are attracting based on how you feel.
Hi, I’m Laura Fredrickson with the Institute of True Wealth, and I want to talk today about addiction to processing.
There are so many people that are in the state of “I have to honor how I feel, I have to really process what just happened to me”, and what they don't understand, what they forget is that what we focus on expands, and you are attracting based on how you feel.
So this is not to dissall therapists or traditional therapy in general; there is a time and a place for that, so powerful, when I lost both of my parents I saw a therapist for 3 months. I did very deliberate work around the emotional trauma, and the emotional pain. But I often work with people who have been in therapy for anywhere between 10 and 20 years; nothing ever changes!
The reason for that is because what you focus on expands regardless of whether or not you're getting clever and you think “no, I just need to process and honor this”, you have to know that your attention is your greatest commodity. And when you continue to regurgitate those stories over and over and over, it's inviting the same energy in different packages into your life.
So awareness is key; awareness is the greatest facilitator for change, and without it you really have no choice and so I really invite you: look at your results, results don't lie. If you find that you're having the same type of experiences over and over in your life, maybe that's the same type of relationship dynamic that you repeat over and over and over. It's an opportunity to really harness your past and your experiences and use it in a way that gets you clear about what you prefer.
There's a very simple practice you can do, I call it “The contrasts exercise” you can create two columns: a “no column” and a “yes column”. And review your past in a very deliberate way, and write down the things that have not worked for you in your relationship, or in your job or perhaps with your health. And take your attention from that no column and shift it to what it is you prefer.
In order to create something new you have to focus on what it is you are wanting. It has to be thought of and spoken of in a life affirming way. The universe does not speak English French and Japanese, it speaks in the language of energy. So use your pass very deliberately and direct your attention from what you experience to what you prefer, place your attention on that at least four days a week; all that's required is the majority because momentum will handle the rest, and what you'll start to notice is new evidence in your life of those new energetic frequencies and experiences coming in as a result of you placing your attention on your yes, and what you prefer.
So remember processing does not fundamentally work, okay? It takes 17 seconds activate a vibration. So the universe is responding to where you place your attention now, now, and now. It doesn’t know the difference between your past, present and future.
So tell stories that feel good to you; everything in life’s a story. The most important one is the one you’re telling yourself.
Much love, until next time.